23 May 2013

Compliments #BEDM

Thanks to dear Shippers over at Just Me, this post now needs to have a slightly different slant. (Read hers. Yeah, she beat me to the punch. And did it way better than I could've done it. Oh look! A compliment mixed with a back-handed self put-down. Definitely a British thing.)

Anyway. Yes, I don't take compliments well either. All the BEDM posts I've read thus far today say the same. Nobody is good at this shit.

And I could probably talk about that till the cows come home (reference). But I've decided I'm going to talk about two particular compliments. You'll know the ones I'm talking about, we all get them at some point.

"You're so nice!"

Yes, this one. This one I have a very strong aversion to. Nice? Nice? There are so many other words in the English language than measly, little 'nice'. It just means next-to-nothing. I concede, whilst some of the alternatives are largely unsuitable in the majority of situations, there are some that I would particularly enjoy hearing — either genuinely or for comic effect — and then there are those which induce a straight-up WTF?!:
absorbing, acceptable, admirable, agreeable, alluring, amiable, amicable, angelic, appealing, approachable, approved, attractive, beauteous, beautiful, becoming, befitting, benevolent, benign, bewitching, breezy, charismatic, charming, choice, civil, classy, clubby, comely, comme il faut, commendable, compatible, conforming, congenial, congruous, considerate, copacetic, cordial, correct, courteous, cute, dainty, dandy, dazzling, decent, decorous, delectable, delicate, delicious, delightful, desirable, divine, ducky, effective, electrifying, elegant, enamoring, engrossing, enhancing, enjoyable, enthralling, enticing, entrancing, excellent, exquisite, eye-catching, fair, fascinating, favourable, fetching, fine, fine and dandy, fit, fitting, foxy, friendly, genial, gentle, good, good-humoured, good-looking, good-natured, gorgeous, graceful, gracious, grand, gratifying, handsome, helpful, hunky-dory, ideal, infatutating, ingratiating, inviting, in-keeping, irresistible, kind, kindly, likeable, lovable, lovely, magnificent, magnetising, marvellous, mild, neat, nifty, obliging, okay, peach, peachy, pleasant, pleasing, pleasurable, pleasureful, polite, prepossessing, presentable, pretty, proper, provocative, pulchritudinous, pussycat, radiant, rapturous, ravishing, ready, refined, resplendent, satisfying, seducing, seductive, seemly, shapely, sightly, simpatico, sociable, spiffy, splendid, statuesque, stunning, sublime, superb, superior, sweet, swell, symmetrical, taking, tantalizing, tasteful, tempting, titillating, to one's liking, to one's taste, unpresumptuous, urbane, warm, welcome, well-chosen, well-formed, well-mannered, winning, winsome, wonderful, worthy,...

... the list goes on. Choose one.

 "You're really interesting..."

This one, and sometimes the previous one, can be swiftly followed by the wondrous conjunction but. So, hearing the first three words doesn't exactly fill you with joy or hope. It's usually the result of some dude trying to palm you off with some BS about how interesting you are but not interesting enough to consider you any further. Although, I received one variant which replaced 'really' with 'the most'. That induced a very definite warm and fuzzy feeling and you know, might just be the nicest compliment I have ever received. : )

So, those compliments, I am definitely not any good at taking and nor do I want to be. Mind you, when I say I'm not very good, I mean to say that my attempted internal response is 'your loss, mate'. I don't always believe it but I do try.

This month, I'm taking part in Blog Every Day in May (BEDM) and this is day 23.

6 comments:

  1. Love your spin on the topic! Learn to adjust your filter to let the good stuff in. :)

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    1. Oh thanks Amanda. Good advice; I should make some adjustments.

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  2. I want somebody to say I am delectable. That would be nice. ;-)

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    1. I know! Agreed, it would be quite 'nice' to hear someone describe us as delectable! Pretty ace.

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  3. "Comely" - HA! That would earn you a punch in the face.

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    1. Tell me about it. Where the hell does that one even 'come' from?

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