27 May 2014

Tinderella? Seems not.

After deciding last month to create a Tinder profile for myself, I said I would tell you lovely lot about my first foray into the world of internet/online dating. I certainly planned to do that much sooner than this, especially given that I ended that post with an impending eagerly anticipated first date with a fellow Tinderite on the horizon.

But you know how it is. And since then I might have, ya know, opted to make some other internet/online dating stuff happen. So I thought I could share my experimental meander through this landscape in a series of posts. Here is the first in that series. Disclaimer: I cannot tell you how long this 'series' is going to be. So you probably shouldn't get too attached. Just sayin'.

It seems the first thing I should do is decide whether I want to call it internet dating, or online dating. Tough call, right? Probably mostly wrong. I'll go with online dating.

OK, where were we? Ah yes, I'd just created a profile on Tinder despite my reservations, and gotten talking to a few would-be suitors. Most seemed nice enough, several whom you matched with but neither of you said a word to each other, and those who could probably do with a little helping hand in the conversational-skills department. An example? This >>

Yeeeeaaahhhh. Let's move on.

My first, and thus far only, Tinder date took place with Richard *not his actual name, a twenty-something involved in making British television documentaries. Before meeting, he'd brought some good conversation, wasn't a million miles removed from my wavelength, and seemed to have a sense of humour. As I've already mentioned — along with my guilt about it — I like a certain level of intelligence in a man. This isn't always based on whether they went to university — although that is a good measure — and I'm not elitist about it, it's just that commonality is good. Moral of the story: this guy met some pretty basic criteria.

Once he suggested a date, I let him choose the location. He opted for Charlie's Bar in Bristol. They have a very good selection of cocktails, and thus, a few rum cocktails featured in the evening along with others being tested by the barman, given to us for free since the place was almost deserted. He kindly purchased the first set of drinks and set up a tab, although I paid for the pairs I ordered at the bar. The conversation flowed pretty well, we had a few things in common and I was having a good time.

However, Richard couldn't seem to make his mind up about his own age; it appeared to increase from 27 to 29 in the space of an hour. I'd given someone younger than myself a chance, it seems, just because. And when he admitted that his friends described him as still living the student lifestyle a lot of the time, I realised younger probably wasn't going to work for me.

Finally, friendly Dick took the leap of inviting me back to his for a, wait for it, cup of tea; Earl Grey if I wanted it even! I declined; anyone who knows me is aware I'm not a hot-drink drinker. Oh and the small issue of visiting the house of a man I'd met just three hours prior. Not my thing.

Instead, I opted to wait for the bus and call my mother. Because I am that rock and roll. I mostly felt indifference; if he texts, cool; if he doesn't, cool. And it seems we both felt an affinity for the latter since there was not one iota of further communication between us.

A few more interactions with other Tindermen followed, but none were converted into dates.

Bottom line: Tinder proffered little in the way of a prince charming and I was no more Tinderella than this very lady. Disclaimer: this does not at all represent my Tindering style/approach.

Next time: OKCupid or StupidCupid?




Jen

13 May 2014

May Playlist

This month's playlist is a little more chilled out and features a good proportion of newly uncovered sounds.




There is one artist whose song(s) I wanted to include in this month's playlist but alas, they aren't on Spotify or rdio yet. So I'm sharing them from Soundcloud. If you're a fan of Haim, CHVRCHES and, Tegan and Sara, Allie X is for you!





Hope you enjoy!

Jen

10 May 2014

The year in books: May

Time for another year in books instalment. Yes, I know, so soon! And this one comes pre-scribed ad I am currently in Berlin. Guten Tag!

April...

the farm - tom rob smith (2013)

date finished: 1 May 2014   |   ISBN: 1847375693   |   pages: 400 (Hardcover)


This is the story of a family torn apart after Daniel's parents and either his father has committed terrible crimes, or his mother has developed psychosis, or both. The mystery is quite interesting, and it was an easy and quick read. But apart from that, I am struggling to find much else positive to say about it. The protagonist Daniel was really rather wet, and his weak character laid out by Smith at the beginning of the book doesn't quite match up with Daniel's actions later in the book. The second main character; Daniel's mother Tilde, sets out a need for chronology early on in the book which means it reads almost like a diary, or police statement. I couldn't quite decide if this meant the writing was lazy or in fact had been quite difficult to write. Sadly, it was just rather average if not below. Just two stars I'm afraid.

rating: ★★☆☆☆


May...

This time, I'm not going to make my works' book club book my main book this month. Instead, I have opted for an Amazon bargain (59p!) with what appear to be great reviews (although I've been caught out by that before). It's also quite an interesting topic; splintered fate. May's book is Fractured by Dani Atkins.
What would you do if life gave you a second chance?

The night of the accident changed everything... Now, five years on, Rachel's life is crumbling. She lives alone in a tiny flat, working in a dead-end job, desperate with guilt over her best friend's death. She would give anything to turn back the clock. But life doesn't work like that... Does it? 

The night of the accident was a lucky escape... Now, five years on, Rachel's life is perfect. She has a wonderful fiancé, loving family and friends around her, and the career she always wanted. But why can't Rachel shake the memory of a very different life?


Also read in April...

bad wolf - nele neuhaus (2012)

date finished: 10 May 2014   |   ISBN: 1250043999   |   pages: 413 (Kindle)


This is #6 in a series of German crime novels. Whilst the mystery in each of the books are standalone, the common thread running through them is investigators Oliver von Bodenstein and Pia Kirchoff. Towards the end of last year, I read Snow White Must Die (#4) and loved it. Sadly, the other four have not, as yet, been translated into English. So when I saw this one in English, I was desperate to read it. I was initially put off by the £9.50 price tag but not for long! Having now read both, I would say that you can certainly read either without having read the other. As with #4, Neuhaus breaks the book into parts by date. If dates appear in a book, I have a bad habit of almost ignoring them save for noting that there has been a change in time but I still like the style. I really enjoy Neuhaus' writing, it's very easy to read and the way she creates suspense and 'hooks', means you quickly become absorbed. This time round, I would say I enjoyed the mystery itself slightly less than #4, perhaps due to the subject matter (I won't give anything away!) but maybe also because I made the mistake of reading a review which revealed the mystery. I was still on tenterhooks waiting to see what was around the corner though. On the whole, the end was satisfying too. Highly recommended!

rating: ★★★★☆



Reading now...

The Maze Runner (Maze Runner #1) - James Dashner


What are you reading?

Jen

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